No Ice!

[jhetley]

Both literally and metaphorically.

On the literal front, I managed my morning fish-wrapper outing without a single slip. Enough sun in the right places yesterday, and the glaze vanished.

On the metaphor front, I've seen some local relationships blow up over the last few weeks, and I've been pondering our own marriage of 35 years. All the other couples we knew back then have split. Not most, _all_.

(Note to Shrub et alia -- those were all hetero couples, so go defend marriage on _them_, but I digress...)

Why have we lasted? Why have my wife's parents passed their 50th anniversary? Dunno. One reason, I'd guess, is that we don't have unreasonable expectations of each other. We have separate interests and do them separately. We don't hold grudges.

And I wash the dishes and close the toilet lid.

Comments

[starcat-jewel.livejournal.com]

From my own experience, two other things which probably enter into it:

1) You have never stopped communicating with each other.

2) You have grown and changed in parallel rather than divergent paths.

Of the two, I would say that the second is important -- but the first is crucial.

[wolfette]

Last year I was having to deal with marriage sabateurs who were trying to tell hubby that having seperate interests showed that we weren't suited.

Naturally they were all either single or divorced.

[jhetley.livejournal.com]

Sounds like some candidates for "first up against the wall" when the revolution comes....